Being a young adult and trying to date these days can be difficult. People are so easily accessible, there are apps that exist specifically for the purpose of infidelity, and our phones and devices become an extension of our autonomy to the point where it becomes disrespectful to give someone else’s screen even a quick glance.
Today’s question is about as self-aware as they come, someone who is confident that their partner is not the issue but is still facing the issue of relationship paranoia;
Dear Jean-Eva, I get jealous when my partner talks to other women, even if I know for a fact its nothing. I (24F) have been with my boyfriend (27M) for 6 months now, and I have one problem: Jealousy.
My boyfriend has never given me any reason to feel this way, he introduces me to the women he is around, he will tell me when a woman approaches him and is very encouraging and liberal with the compliments. He doesn’t ever hide anything like texts or conversations, he is open and honest about what he is doing and who he is with… I think this is coming from having been cheated on in the past.
My boyfriend is great and I believe I’m just scared he will find someone else. How do I shake this mindset?
Jean-Eva gives a nod to the positive benefits of being self-aware and understanding where insecurities come from, hear what else she has to say and what our inquisitor can do about her situation here: