On the first Wednesday of every month, we welcome the Book of Love’s Men’s Dating Coach Sean Aucoin to give us a more masculine perspective to your questions.
Today’s submission is from someone in the early stages of young love. Navigating your first encounters with adult relationships can be challenging. Trying to decide between living your best single life while you’re still young or building on a relationship can be complicated. And the most challenging of all for a 20-something? Communication.
Our main character today seems to be open to communication, but is curious about how to bring up that “What are we?” conversation:
Dear Sean, how do I take the next step in this situationship? He’s 22, I’m 20, we’ve been seeing each other for two months now. It started as a planned hookup but this past weekend was like an actual date.
He met me at the bus stop which he doesn’t normally do, told me he missed me, then walked me to his house.
We are genuinely friends and we have hung out without getting physical, but this time we cooked dinner together, watched a movie, and he was ever so slightly more affectionate. This feels like its moving into relationship territory but with the way dating is these days, you never know if that’s going to scare them away.
We talk a lot but never about where this is going. How do I bring up that conversation without scaring him?
Listen to what Sean has to say
